While reading the two blogs assigned for today, I felt many emotions including shock and complete sadness.
In the first piece Katie states “Cyber sex is the most disgusting thing ever. Honestly. Sex without intimacy. Sex without love. I wouldn’t touch that shit with a ten-foot pole.” I found this shocking because why can we not have sex for pleasure? Why does it have to be with an intimate partner? Heck, why can we not just do it ourselves! Sexual encounters are not always to express love. (I mean, if you have that special someone, all the power to ya!) But, sometimes it is just what we all need. Many people are blaming everyone else for slut-shaming but, I feel as though we have to blame ourselves. Yah, we have all victimized someone in our life as a “slut” whether it be for someone having multiple sex partners, a girl talking to another girl about someone they don’t like, to even a guy calling a girl down just because he thinks it isn’t a big deal. This is just disgusting. But what is even more disgusting is if a girl is labeled as slut she will never be considered a serious victim of any type of non consensual sexual enactments. This brings me to the heart breaking blog about Reteah Parsons.
Retaeh was raped by four boys at a party when she was under the influence. First of all, if alcohol is involved, it will never be consensual. (So boys, and girls, you’re already raping. Even if you didn’t know it!) This is a very sad story because not only was Retaeh part of a very traumatizing experience, she attempted to take her own life. These four boys not only raped her, but took a picture and made it go viral. Where anyone thought this was a good idea is beyond me. When reading this blog what really shocked me aside from the gang rape, was that the police would not punish the boys for taking the picture because “they can’t prove who pushed the camera button.” Really? What is wrong with society today? On top of that, what will be wrong with society tomorrow? This is just not okay!
Samantha
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I could not agree more that we are to blame! When we take a look at what’s really going on here, its everyone attacking everyone! After all who has the authority to be the “labeler”. No one! All of us are dong the labeling. Yet we are the ones that complain about it.. I think we all need to take a step back and say wait.. What can I do here in order for this to stop? awesome post!
Kristie
I agree with your title this society totally does suck! That is so outrageous how police wouldn’t even punish those boys. I get what your saying about us being the ones to blame and I think the problem is people aren’t informed enough about sex being a good thing!! But as great as it can be it has to pleasurable for both parties!! That cannot be stressed enough I don’t know how we’ll end rape but I feel once society starts accepting that sex for pleasure good and not slutty or whorish maybe then guys can be more condemned for there sex crimes rather then the whole “oh she’s a slut so she can’t get raped” kind of attitude we do have going on.
I could not agree more with your post! Society sickens me these days. If a group of girls were to do to a boy what these boys did to this girl they would FOR SURE be called all kinds of degrading names by society and would most likely be charged for it. Because I mean, we all know that when boys rape girls the girls most likely are asking for it, but if a girl were to rape a guy- well, thats just plain wrong. I find it ridiculous that our justice system is so leniant when it comes to the safety and protection of women. Awesome post!
Michelle E.
I think Michelle made a great point when she said that if the table was turned, there would be a much different outcome! This just reinforces the double standard and it is really frustrating. Most people would probably say that they think rape is a bad thing, but as a society we are doing a pretty lame job at putting a stop to it. The fact that these boys were not punished only reinforces that society doesn’t take the crime seriously! Awesome job on the post!
Tracie H.
I believe that your comment about sex/pleasure is correct. Why can’t women have sex for pleasure? What is society so afraid of when it comes to women enjoying themselves sexually. Society feels as if they must keep women in a bind, be a prude, or be a slut.
When it comes to Retaeh, I agree with you again. Society isn’t taking the initiative to convict the boys who were directly the cause of this young women losing her life because of a stupid technicality. Society needs to be helping the victims as opposed to the attackers. Don’t teach “how not to get raped, instead, teach “DON’T RAPE.
Intense post. I completely agree though. I was shocked that the police didn’t take it more seriously. I also like what you wrote about sex being for pleasure. Why are we judged for it? It’s ridiculous! Guys never would be judged for that. That’s just another thing that sucks about our society.
-Kristen C
Really though, this picture is worth at least 500 words, so I’m going to let it do the talking for me…