After reading the first blog that was assigned for this week I found myself very moved. In the blog we see Katie describing the ultimate sex life as one that exists between two people in a relationship. I found this very interesting. All too often we miss the comments that imply such a thing. In the society we live in the only acceptable sexual relationships are ones between those in a relationship. Everyone else who is having sex with people outside of a relationship is a slut (the girls that is, lets not forget that men don’t get shamed for having numerous sexual partners).
How many of us have been to high school? How many of us labeled girls as sluts in high school? Me, I did and I’m not afraid to admit that. When word got out about a girl having multiple sexual partners outside of a relationship she was instantly a slut in my mind as well as many others. She was labeled. I never realised how wrong this was until I took this class. Why is it wrong to have sex for pleasure and not love? I can’t answer that question, I don’t think any of us can but, what troubles me even more is that as soon as a girl is a “slut” it’s okay to rape her. An example of this is Rehtaeh’s story.
Rehtaeh is a young girl that committed suicide after being raped by four boys. Amongst the rape a photo was taken of her that was then released to the public. After the photo was seen by the public instead of Rehtaeh being a victim of rape she was a slut. This baffles me! We are in a negative downfall where sexually active girls are sluts, and boys get to rape sluts because they are asking for it. And who pays the price? Girls like Rehtaeh because no one sticks up for the victim, they blame them.
This generation scares me, and what scares me more is the generations to come. Now is the time that we need to make a change.