Brad Perry discusses the lessons that young adolescent boys are taught – get girls drunk so that they will want to sleep with you, without any concern of her own sexual pleasure. As he discusses his encounter with a young girl who after four beers continues to say no as he continuously paws at her, it made me realize just how easily sexual violence can be brushed off. Brad Perry mentions that the first time she says no, he is confused and keeps trying because he was told by peers that getting girls drunk is how to have a sexual encounter with them. I used to think that sexual violence and rape meant that you are held down in an alley way and brutally raped by a stranger. I’m sure I’m not alone with this kind of thinking, because we are not properly informed in sexual education what a healthy sexuality means. Women are constantly taught not to go out walking late at night, not to wear short dresses/skirts or they are asking for it, etc. These types of ‘prevention’ tactics make it seem like women are going to get raped by a stranger. But the sad reality is that, rape and sexual violence is more prevalent than predators in an alley way. The part where he mentions that a close friend of his was raped by her boyfriend is proof that rape can happen anywhere, by anyone. Boys are taught, “get girls drunk and you will get some” and men brush off accusations of rape with, “boys will be boys.” These types of lessons are so prevalent in popular culture, whether it is as subtle as the lyrics of, “Blurred Lines” or as direct as the plot in movies such as Super Bad and American Pie. These lessons that boys and men are taught around sexuality might be the reason why rape culture and sexual violence will continue to flourish. This should not just be a women’s issue, men are just as much involved.